The Holiday That Changed My Life

Most of the things that change our lives do not come with a package labeled “something that will change your life” but instead it often comes in something messy or something we totally dislike.

i was 20 years old and was in the middle of a highly demeaning relationship, it was normal to be called fat or to be called unpretty or unworthy.

I was definitely not the prom queen or the beauty queen, i was the fat girl in highschool and even though the baby fat eventually melted away, that insecure girl was hiding away underneath ready to attack.

I was lost and broken when I was tasked to teach English to 8 eleven year old Korean nationals over the Christmas Holidays in 2008.

I was meant to teach them but in reality they taught me and healed me in ways they couldn’t even imagine!

God sent me those eight angels to teach me how to love unconditionally but most importantly, they taught me the blessing of being loved unconditionally as well.

I was loved because of who I am and not how I looked. For the first time in my life, I felt completely comfortable with who I am without worrying about my weight or how I look.

The three weeks I spent with them changed me because I loved and sacrificed for someone just because i wanted to and not because I was seeking for love in return.

God used that period of my life to allow me to see that my worth is not based on the superficial things we are being fed everyday, instead God wanted me to see me as the person He created me to be.

It sparked a journey for me to begin to help other people and love them without seeking for anything in return.

God made me realize that in Him, I am complete and because of this I stopped relying on other people to take responsibility for my own happiness.

And although I have not arrived yet at my destination, I am no longer broken and because of this, i can now share genuine love with those around me- something that i’ve never done before.

All it takes is a single step.

A step to turn away from something destructive and into something beautiful.

I pray you step into the better path today (its something you can choose! believe that!) and I hope that it leads you to greater things.

September 08, 2010: Carl’s 17th Birthday

Happy 17th Birthday, My Not So Little Brother! 🙂
Spent time with family to eat a tasty dinner 🙂 God is good, my little brother is all grown up and he has grown up to be a smart and opinionated one (which is a good one!).
I cannot imagine that the little boy who thought that i’d eventually leave him for a boyfriend (hasn’t happened yet, brother!) has grown up to be a handsome man that I am so proud of 🙂

Redeem My Heart, O Lord

If you’re a girl, you’ve probably felt at one point in your life the feeling of intense pain when a guy told you that you were either:

A) too fat
B) too demanding
C) or just plain annoying for being you

Yes, your heart has probably been butchered because a guy said he would call but he didn’t.

I don’t know why girls like to go through such intense pain but whatever stupid choices we’ve had in the past, it all leads to one thing: our broken and sometimes so impossible to put back together shattered hearts.

Earlier this night i went through the tragedy of insensitive words spun together to degrade my inner being and i just broke down.

For one thing I was grateful because I was able to survive it and second I broke down because finally the weight has been lifted!

Because the only person who could redeem my heart and all my fears and insecurities is God and Him alone.

It felt good, i felt better than i have in two years because God’s peace overwhelms!

I learned and became better because of it without losing my belief in happy endings written by the greatest storyteller of all.

If you’re going through a rough patch or feeling like you won’t get out of the hole you’re in, don’t believe that lie.

You may not have the strength but God has all that You need and in time, you will breakdown for the last time and He will lift you up and you will never be the same again.