My love life isn’t all that exciting which makes my dad a very comfortable man.

For one thing, I really don’t meet a lot of guys on a daily basis simply because I spend most of my days with miniature adults or virtual leading men like Ted, Sheldon, Leonard, Tad Hamilton.

I remember my dad quietly approving the first and only one i liked probably because i was a tad taller than him and he seemed harmless.

The second one i liked exactly a year ago, he didn’t.
I think the main reason why that didn’t work was because my dad really disliked the guy in question.

Three months later, I discovered why my dad was against him.

So today during our short grocery trip, my dad reviewed the tips he gave me about two years earlier.

1) If a man wants you, he will let you and the world know.


    –  A man will go exhaust all the means to be with you. My dad even told me that i wouldn’t even have to worry about it because  the guy who really wants to be with me will be calling every single time. My dad also told me that he would show me off to the world. This means holding my hand in public, picking me up from my seat and so on. He would send me tweets and not ignore them. I would have pictures on his profile but not in an overly sweet way but in a way that says the world that yes he is taken.


2) If a man wants you he will look your father in the eye.


   – My dad loves telling me this. He always says, “i don’t like him because he can’t look at me in the eye.” He also told me that the guy who is sure of his feelings will talk to him and not creep behind his back.


3) Never be with a guy who drinks every weekend and puts his friends over family first.


    – My dad absolutely detests guys who do nothing but drink and party. There’s nothing wrong with the occasional social drinking etc but he detests guys who do nothing but that. He loves saying it this way, “mahilig lang sa good time.” 


4) Looks will fade. Principles and values of a man will not.


   – My dad says this in a very loving way, “Wala ka makukuha sa puro porma”, this I have learned the hard way over the years. I learned this particular lesson a year ago with the guy i previously liked. Looks fade and most guys who focus too much on their good looks are simply too busy being vain that they cannot take care of their woman. Usually because of their good looks they think that they’re God’s gift to women and given the ticket to treat them badly.


and his favorite one:


5) A man will be with an easy girl but only until it’s exciting. The time would come and my dad assures that it will come, that he would leave an easy girl for a decent one.


– My dad loves telling me this. He loves telling me that when it’s easy for a guy since he wouldn’t lose anything he’d go ahead and be with a girl. But my dad assures me that when the time comes, the guy would drop the easy girl to be with a girl who is worthy of the pursuit.

Above all, I thank my dad for being the kind of man that he is. By loving my mom he has shown me through his actions what a real man should be like. I also thank him for being a good father because it has stopped me from going out with jerks simply because i get the care and attention that i need right at home.

The right man hasn’t found me yet (yes, he has to do the finding) but i know when the time comes, my dad would be proud when walking me down the aisle simply because he taught me well.

It’s been awhile since I wrote about a cheesy blog entry because aside from my Ted Mosby/Nathan Scott/Mike Chang moments I haven’t really had anything exciting happen to me in that area and I’m not complaining really.

However there are days when I realize that I’m not a robot although I try do try my very best to be one.

It must be good to be with the person you want to be with. The one who makes you want to sing silly songs and the one whose face you want to see in the morning. The person who would be proud enough to walk up to me in a crowd and hold my hand.

Sometimes I think I’ve written so many standards and find too many insignificant faults in order to erect walls tall enough to keep everyone away.

I make excuses, run away at the first exit and although I am not proud of this– find a lame excuse riddled in self-pity (ie: not pretty enough or not cool enough) in order to avoid commitment or further pain.

But on days like this one I simply take away the blinders and wonder if the moments that take your breath away are also worth some of the tears along the way.

That maybe it isn’t about lists or perfection but how you feel when you see that person or how spending an entire day doing absolutely nothing becomes magical.

I’m too cynical to understand it now but maybe one day it will all make sense and I’ll meet my own Ted Mosby who will love me enough to convince me to throw the sometimes stupid list away.

Maybe the butterflies will come alive, the songs will finally be suitable and maybe Adele will finally be played less and the goofy grin be difficult to erase.

Maybe I’m not going end up alone after all and maybe just maybe like Summer “I’m going to know what I never knew with everyone else.”

It has been said that triple dates are unique therefore it has become a date of weddings and much more.

Aside from wanting to see the lanterns tonight, I really didn’t wish for anything magnificent to happen because I have come to realize that special dates like this one is best shared with people who love you and people you love.

It doesn’t have to be about fireworks (although it would be really cool but not as cool as flying lanterns) or wishes.

Tonight as i write this, i simply take the time to thank God for all the wonderful blessings that He has given me and my family. I thank Him for everything that is in my life and although i still have wishes, I don’t want to dwell on them to the point that i don’t enjoy what I have now.

God has a perfect time for everything and i am exactly where i’m supposed to be at this moment so i thank you Lord that on this historical day i am blessed with the promise of a bright future not just for me but for my entire family and everyone else that i love.

Thank you Jesus for the gift of life and for the gift of a very bright future ahead simply because I am trusting in Your name.

Hope everyone gets what they have prayed for today.

God has great things for you.

as human beings, we are wired to worry.

every day we face news that are horrifically terrifying we wonder how we can even leave the confinements of our homes.

we double check the locks of our homes and throw salts everywhere to make sure that we’ve got it covered.

however, the thing about worry is, it doesn’t really do anything. it basically makes you focus on something that is quite impossible to happen and yet in our over analytical minds (or probably just mine) we think of all the options and probably how we’d feel when these things happen (if they actually would, but so far none of my worries have come true).

while reading the book, the good and beautiful life by James Bryan Smith, he challenged our society’s obsession with worry. while there is nothing wrong with being cautious, James Bryan Smith insists on the fact that in the Bible, it has been stated so many times that we shouldn’t worry.

In the book of Matthew, a verse in the sixth chapter  encourages to simply focus on what’s happening at this very moment in our lives is a favorite and yet we spend countless nights wide awake and restless.


James Bryan Smith proceeds to explain why we hold on to worry so much. In our minds we’re subconsciously wired to think that the more we worry, the more we can control the situation.

Most of us think that because we worried constantly about something, that something did not happen. It may seem a bit far fetched but think about it, is this the reason why you are worrying yourself crazy all the time?  To superstitiously protect yourself from something?


in truth, all the days of our lives are already made known by the Creator of the Universe and as long as we obey Him and stay in tune with His truth then there is nothing to worry about, and i mean it, absolutely nothing, we must always remember that although there are horrendous things happening in the world today, we are protected not because we are perfect but because God is. 


it is safe to say that God is not only good but He also loves us– which means that no harm could ever come our way simply because God loves us so much and He has all the power in the Universe to protect us from whatever evil is in this world.


I do understand that we have been a product of a culture of worry and it is quite difficult to get out of it, especially if we have spent countless hours nursing it.

But today, maybe you should start small. Worry a little less, any time you are caught in frantic worry, take a moment of silence and pray to God about whatever it is that you are worried about and from there, feel His peace that is above all understanding, a peace that only God can give.

Rest easy. He’s got it covered.

Last night my high school friends dragged me out of the house and over a few drinks we reminisced over years past.

It felt good to laugh with people you used to bicker with, people you used to fight with and a person you used to be deeply infatuated with.

It felt good to look back and just laugh over what used to be such difficult dramas.

It felt good to be sixteen again and get kilig simply because you were sitting beside your high school crush.

Life was suddenly easy and light– the way it should be but often we forget because of life’s daily troubles.

It was exactly what God knew I needed simply because I have been praying for the longest time for my heart to be revived again and God in His own way has shown me that life doesn’t have to be difficult and all you need is Him and a few good friends.

It felt good because admit it a part of you would always be sixteen and that’s not a bad thing because in it lies the dreamer that always believes in the good side of life and the eternal optimist that believes that God has great plans for us.

Have you revisited your 16 year old self lately?

When I was 15, a new student arrived in the halls of our high school.

He was the most beautiful boy I have ever seen and although it was impossible, this beautiful boy took the time to talk to me, probably the biggest dork in school.

We never had the chance to become good friends beyond Chemistry tutorial but I will never forget his kindness and thought of him often.

Times and seasons nay change but the kindness of a person would never falter.

It’s sad for you to leave this world this way, beautiful boy but I pray that you find your way to Our Father’s arms.

You have been kind to me and that act of kindness, I will never forget.

worry.

it is an insatiable part of who i am. i like knowing how things are done and i enjoy knowing where things would go. i highly dislike not knowing.

but lately, i have come to realize that walking with Jesus has always been about 1% knowing where things are going and then 99% leaving it all up to faith.

which, as human beings is kind of difficult. now i don’t mean simply sitting inside your house and not doing anything but doing what you can do and letting God take it from there.

whatever part of my life i’m specifically referring to i’d rather not say, but trusting God and the adage, “if it’s meant to happen it will happen” has been  quite difficult for me in this area, however, i have come to understand that it has been a whole lot easier to do so.

that whatever it is i’m worried about– whether repeated sin (an entirely different story but i stand forgiven the same way you are) or a prayer that has not been answered, i trust that God hears me even when I don’t hear His voice, especially when I don’t hear His voice.

and even though i  may never know why, i know that His goodness is enough for me to stand on. 


God is not only great, He is good and for me to trust a God like that is just outstanding because it means that my life is always in good hands and guess what, yours is too.


Stand strong!

As I begin this entry, I honestly don’t know what to write– there is so much to say and yet I could not find the words to express them so if this entry seems unfocused- forgive me.

1) God is faithful

– I know I have said this so many times but it is worth saying again. I have come to know through God’s grace that loving Him for who He is and not what He gives is quite exhilarating. There is freedom in knowing that whatever happens, God’s plan is always in action.

— I guess that’s really all I wanted to say for now. But I know someone needed to read that so just in case that’s you today — hold on tight, God is on your side. 🙂

Admit it.

There is that one dream in your life that you cannot seem to let go of no matter how silly or how childish or how impossible it may be.

There is that one dream that you couldn’ help but think about before you close your eyes at night and there might be days where you tuck away the dream at the farthest corner of your mind simply because the chaos of everyday living has clouded over the possibility of it actually happening.

But on days wherein you have all the time in the world you are reminded that whatever that dream is, it is quite possible to achieve.

So whatever it is that you are holding on to at this very moment, I hope you are reassured of the fact that yes it is possible so don’t lose hope.

Each day brings you closer to that “one day”.